What kinds of punishments are good for 5 yr olds?
Thursday, July 29th, 2010 at
9:32 am
What different kinds of punishments are there? What kind of punishment do you do for your kids? Mines 5 and time out doesn’t work anymore.
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I don’t care what anyone says—-I have found spanking more effective than timeouts, naughty chairs, etc. So I don’t spank just "as a last resort"–but spanking works so well I have also found it is not necessary to spank all that often.
The key to making any punishment work is consistency–and that is the hardest thing because it is unpleasant for everyone–its all too easy to let something slide (a promised spanking, or spankable behavior).
I also think that, WITHIN REASON, a spanking should give an ouch and a spanking can easily get lost in the pants. So when I have to spank it is usually bare bottom with my hand.
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chores or some kind of work he has to do that might not be as enjoyable as playing
5 minute Time-outs. Sit him/her on a small stool facing the wall and set a timer to 5 minutes. Tell the child that when it buzzes, he/she can get up but must apologize as well.
i have a six year old that like to play games…lol so ya I take those away but not for like a week i don’t want them to rebel against me
but you can try and make them sit down in their bedroom for maybe an hour or however long. and always try and make them clean their room lol something productive. but seriously you have to find his/her most favorite thing to do and take that away for an extent for a punishment.
take away favorite toys or TV time, also I find that positive reinforcement (rewards) works well with my kids
well you could ignore what he/ she is doing. i have a nephew and i put him on the bold step and shut the door i walk out and leave him. the bold step is a little chair. when you put him/her on the bold step come down to his/her level and say why he/she is on the bold step and cause he/she is 5 that gives 5 minutes on the bold step and then when there done there time they say sorry you may feel like at 1st its not working but then you actually realise it does over time. or you can do a good chart using stickers and when she/he is good you give a star but if they are bold you take away a star and at the end of the week if they have over 10 stars they get a suprize good luck:)
spanking
Depends on the circumstances. Consistency is key to discipline. When you give them a warning for soemthing they shouldnt do, tell them that is not acceptable and tell them the consequence if they were to do it again. The next time they do it put them on a time out. In a spot that isnt in the same room as say another child playind or watching tv but instead in a chair in the dining room where you can still check on him/her. Put them on the time out for as many minutes equal to their age. Once they have completed the time out and did not get off the chair or leave the area, go to them, stoop lower to their level and tell them why they were on the naught seat and to apologize and that they cannot do that anymore. Let them go about their way. Repeat each and every time, do not yell and threaten and not follow through. Keep them busy. If your child acts up more when you go away or are out, explain to them what is expected prior to exiting the car. Give them behavior charts and when they do good 5 days in a row, let them choose something fun to do.
As the parent of a young child, your best bet is use use discipline that is progressive, and you must be consistent or it won’t work at all.
As an example: Your son playing a game. It’s too cold to be playing outside so he is playing in his room. Like normal boys he has a lot of energy and starts getting very loud, yelling and jumping, hitting the walls, etc. You go into his room and tell him he needs to be quieter. (First step, a verbal warning which will sometimes be enough).
He quiets down for a few minutes but soon you can hear him again, so you go back in and tell him you have already told him to quiet once and stand him in a corner for 10 minutes. (Next progressive step, a milder punishment). Never-mind the "one-minute-per-year" business, he stands there until you think he has settled down. After about 10 minutes ask him if he thinks he can play quietly. He will probably say yes.
Tell your son that he if you have to get on him a third time he will be getting a spanking. (Final warning with clearly defined consequences). Sure enough, a few minutes later you hear a loud thump as your son jumps off of his bed lands on the floor. At this point he has had two chances to correct the behavior, and is still misbehaving. Go into his bedroom, sit on his bed, take his pants and undies down, take him over your lap and deliver a thorough bare bottom spanking. As with the corner-time, toss that silly "one-swat-per-year" nonsense out the window. Yes a spanking should hurt and yes it should result in genuine tears, not just the ones he will shed trying to get sympathy from you. At 5 your open hand is the best spanking implement but if takes 12-15 good solid swats to get results then that’s he gets. After you spank him make sure you hug him and tell him that you love him but you expect him to behave. Remember the key is consistency, use this basic format regularly and he will learn when is expected and what will not be tolerated. Don’t let anyone tell you he is to young to understand, he understand better than you think.
I used to babysit a 5,6, and 7 year old everyday after school. I had a chart, if they were good they got a sticker, if they misbehaved the got one taken away. At the end of the week, if they had a sticker for everyday they got a prize. You could do that with your son, to show him there are consequences and also praise him when he does the right thing.
Or, take privileges away. Since he is only 5, maybe he watches tv, or plays video games(Or something else)? Take them away for a day.
well you should find their favorite toy and take it away for a time and if he continues to misbehave either keep that toy for a longer time period or take another toy away.
It depends on the severity of the "crime" and the personality of the child. What works for my older son does not work for my younger son. Whatever you choose, the key is consistency and follow through. If you say you’re going to do something, then do it. Good, bad, or indifferent. It gives your words meaning.
Help them learn to make good choices by helping them recognize and experience the natural consequences of their actions. When they do something ‘wrong’, help them recognize it & understand why it’s wrong (Who did it hurt or negatively affect? Why was it unsafe or unhealthy?)
Then, help them figure out if they can right the wrong (if they made a mess, clean it up – if they wasted someone’s time, volunteer to help that person in the future – if they broke something, replace it or fix it – if they worried you, show that they understand the danger & won’t do it again)
Have them apologize where necessary
And, ask them to think about why they made the choice they did and how they might do it differently next time
If you do the time out right it should still have some effect. Do they have to face the wall for 5 minutes, do you talk to them during time out or do you ignore them like you should?
I think a 5 year old is old enough to start getting swats. Explain to him/her why he/she is getting a spanking and put him/her over your lap and give like 10 spanks. It won’t really hurt but they’ll hate it anyway just cuz they don’t like being controlled.
Take away their favorite toys. When my 4 yr old gets in trouble he is grounded from tv and video games.